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紀錄:阿諾語言暴衝ing

會說的話有:『byebye』『車車』『ㄋㄟ ㄋㄟ』 『 麻麻』『 拔拔』『走走』 『好!』尿溼了怪表情抓著胯下說 『拔布』(尿布)

今天跑過來跟我說『臭臭』(然後果然有)。

『蛋糕』『押押(腳丫丫)』

喜歡邊看某本書邊在關鍵時刻說No! 還有另一本裡面的『貓咪~~』會學我模仿動物叫,『謝謝』『謝謝你~』(拿東西給我,我對他說完他重複)『美眉(妹妹)』『Bay-Be!』『水~』『Um!』(吃東西)『Eyes』『Nose』『鼻子』(指妹妹的五官)『叔叔』『阿姨』常常性別錯亂 『哥哥姊姊妹妹弟弟』常常年紀錯亂。

『拉』『拔』『按』『轉』跟他說kisskiss他會過來抱我。好窩心。喝奶的時候會邊捏邊說『擠!』看到大象會搖頭晃腦五音不全的唱『大象~大象~』然後我五音非常全的把鼻子長的歌唱完。我中文童謠好像只會唱這首。指著桌上的『書~』要我拿給他。最愛說『No!』Sometimes 會說『Yes!』

大部份的時候還是說一長串外星文,可是聲音很甜美我超愛聽。

 

Quin going into week 3

Her color has improved: she is looking less yellow. The down on her back is falling off, so she is also looking less feral. Her eyes are focusing more, and she seems to be awake a little bit longer each night.

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She seems most peaceful in contact with us. At night she somehow moves several inches out of her topponcino so her head is touching my elbow.

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Just today noticed she is more substantial then before. A few days ago I could carry her easily in one arm. Now I need to pay more attention when I do. She has filled out nicely where she was previously wrinkled and bony. Her ankles and calves are better turned out. She is growing from newborn to infant, right before my eyes. And my love for her grows steadily, as I perceive her personhood gradually emerge.

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Knox at 19 months

Knox likes working alongside me. When I’m in the kitchen he is checkimg out the kitchen utensiles in the cabinet or standing on the learning tower wearing his apron. When I’m sewing he sits on the flopr next to me or wants to sit up and help me switch gears. He is getting better at only pressing the lever or button when I say he can. Playing with my things at his own will without my permission puts him on the floor.

Knox is able to play in a more contained manner: while playing with my pillbox of snaps, he only carefully took a few out and handed them to me or put them next to me. He didnt walk off with them or throw them about. He was able to understand that they belonged in the container.

{update 2013/Sep/5}
Today Knox
–walked grownup stairs sequentially
–allowed daddy to brush his teeth without fuss
–kisses mommy on cheek (was kissing Quin on cheek day before)

Daddy Knox swim time

19 month old Knox gets comfy in the water.

Knox’s giant object permanence box

Object permanence box

Object permanence box

An Object permanence box is used for a child who can sit up to develop hand-eye coordination, and helps them understand that objects still exist even when they can’t see them.   I’m beginning to discover that there are many things in life that stand in good stead of buying or making particular Montessori items. Knox has been very fond of buckling things around the house, and when we go out to eat the buckles of the high chair are really good practice. In the playroom of our building there’s a billiard table. I think it’s an awesome object permanence box for a toddler!   The cool thing is, he discovered how this works all by himself, just by going about pushing buttons and imitating what he sees the adults do while playing billiard. Though I had to prod him to try different holes as he couldn’t see the holes from his height and thought there was only one hole. I love how fearless he is, and we try to keep him that way by keeping most things in the house accessible to him.

Tranquility

Found this in the archives. He must have been really tired that day.

Birth of Quin

Birth of Quin

The day the contractions started, I happened to have a doctor’s appointment. She did a physical examination and said that I was 2 cm dilated. Later in the afternoon, I started to have very gentle contractions. Having nothing better to do that day, we decided to go for a swim at the pool. Afterwards, my contractions got slightly more obvious while showering, and then more.
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Mike asked if he should heat up dinner. We timed my contractions and they were 5 minutes, then 7 minutes apart. He went to take a shower. I timed myself while he was in the shower. It suddenly became 3 minutes apart. I waited until Mike got out of the shower to tell him the good news. Close to 7pm, we decided to head to the hospital. I called a taxi and Mike called Jeremy to come babysit Knox. While waiting for him, we decided we probably shouldn’t wait and I called Brooke, our neighbor, to help watch Knox until Jeremy arrived. I bustled down and got into the taxi. Knox seemed fairly surprised at this turn of events as he was handed off without ceremony.
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We got to Al Ahli hospital and went up to the maternity ward. It is Ramadan and they are open from 7pm~2am. The nurses seemed to wish we had gone up to the ER as they have doctors there, but then decided to just push me up to the labor room and call a doctor. The nurse in charge kept calling me “My dear,” From admittance into the delivery room at 7:30 pm to birth at 9:30pm, Mike speculates that our previous story of Knox being born within half an hour (of admittance, quickly followed by my water breaking) might just have been due to us waiting too long to get to the hospital. Previously in Taiwan, we had been rejected in the morning due to irregularity of contractions and feared being rejected again. This time, when I (to my genuine surprise) timed that my contractions were coming in 2~3 minute intervals, we decided to hurry over. Am glad we did.
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In the delivery room we had a male doctor greet me who said he would be delivering my baby. Then later during labor another female doctor came in and did the actual delivering. It was slightly confusing. Mike went away to do some paperwork but came back quickly. He seemed more stressed out than I was, but once things got into swing he became much calmer. A nurse stuck a needle in my hand for an IV. I later learned that IV during labor is related with the mother’s milk coming in later.
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This time besides screaming, I felt it comfortable to recede into a sort of mental haze where I could mumble whatever random thing came to my mind. Mostly it was “This hurts.” in mandarin. When I said “Make it stop.” Mike reassuringly told me that it would be over soon, that I just had to pull through, to which I snapped “Stop trying to reason with me.”

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I was anxious that Mike convey how I didn’t want an episiotomy, and how we wanted to delay cord clamping. The
doctor smiled and said yes, yes. I cannot stress enough how important it is to reiterate this to all medical personnel present, because the moment Quin was out they clamped the umbilical cord, and rushed Mike to cut it. I am experiencing delayed disgruntlement about this now a week after delivery. She was born 9:30 pm, 2 hours after our admittance.
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Today her cord fell off.
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Differences between Knox birth and Quin birth:

  • They did not give me an IV in Taiwan. Here they wouldn’t let me drink but 2 sips of water during labor, and stuck an evil needle in my hand. Hated it as I couldn’t make a fist – it is supposedly a modern plastic needle that will bend with the vein and thus can afford to be two inches long.
  • I could clearly feel pushing out distinct parts of Quin. With Knox, once he started to crown, it seemed but a quick sliding out. Mike said it was because of the episiotomy, where the doctor snipped my perinium and Knox just slid out.
  • Quin cried quite soon after she popped out. That helped me realize that our baby was real. Knox was laid on my chest just a few moments after birth and a quick check, wipe and wrap. Quin was taken away for a bath and it was much longer before I was allowed a (very) brief hold, while the doctor was vigorously massaged my uterus, to my chagrin. Quin’s first pics with me feature an uncomely grimace.
  • It seemed more painful, the uterus massage. And I felt much more provoked with all the probing at my genitals.
  • The doctor said she would not check me too often. But between her and the midwife I felt checked (probed) more frequently than I enjoyed.
  • Mike shot a video! And I got to see the nitty gritty!
  • For 2 hours, we were left alone in the delivery room “to be observed”. No one came in to observe us during that time. The nurses were having their meal. + The baby was taken away ftom us. To be bathed thoroughly in soap. For in Taiwan they only used water or water with some mild green enzyme inside. For days post-birth Knox smelled gloriously of newborn. I sniffed Quin in vain.

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